How to Get Your Life Together: A Simple Step-by-Step Life Reset Plan

Sometimes you wake up tired, your mind feels cluttered, every step you make feels like a step backwards, and everything is harder than it should be.

Oh, I’ve been in that place so many times and even now, as a mom to a toddler, I can confidently say that there are days, maybe even a full week (or two) when life just isn’t running smoothly and I jump from one anxiety-filled and self-pity moment to another.

On those days, I find myself wondering how I managed to lose the control over my everyday life so much that it feels impossible to put it all together… to get my life together and feel confident and happy with who I am.

Luckily, I have a life reset blueprint I can always follow, an inspiration, a guide to keep me grounded and focused on what matters. And I will share it with you right here, hopefully to help you find your way out of hard times and bring more light into your soul.

The most surprising part of my life reset plan is that none of the steps are big. You don’t have to move houses, buy new stuff or create grand changes to feel the difference inside you. Because the biggest progress always comes from small consistent improvements.

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Step 1: Reset Your Mind

You know that it all starts in your mind – the clutter, the worry, the anxiety, the negative thoughts, the struggle to fall asleep early, to doom scroll less, to eat better… It all starts on the inside.

But how do you give your mind new tasks if it is already overwhelmed by the chaos and lack of clarity you’ve let pile up for weeks or months? You do a brain dump.

Do a Brain Dump

Do a Brain Dump

The other evening, I decided to do a small list of a few tasks I had on my mind.

I started writing, went to check my brain dump trigger list and ended up with a two-page list of so many tasks and ideas I’ve forgotten.

It felt like I had a mental shower – I felt lighter and calmer, knowing I wouldn’t forget those things because they are written down and not just tucked away in a mental drawer I rarely check.

You can type the tasks on your phone, scribble them on a simple piece of paper, write them in a notebook or use my brain dump template (that comes with a trigger list and categories to sort your tasks into). The approach doesn’t matter as long as you find a way to give those ideas, tasks and things you don’t want to forget a physical place to live.

Start Journaling

Your mind could often feel cluttered not because of the tasks you need to do. Maybe you already have the lists piled in your planner, but still feel uneasy and restless (sort of).

Journal.

Journal about your day, your feelings, the way your life has evolved, about your colleagues, your spouse, your children, your friends, or just how confused and weird you feel. Grab a pen and write a word, then write another. If you’ve never journaled before, start simple – here’s a guide that will help you begin journaling without overthinking it.

And if you truly struggle with emotions, take a look at my emotional processing journal prompts (with a printable journal included) that will easily guide you through your messy emotions and give you a slightly different point of view for each emotion.

Reflect on Yourself (but Really)

One of my favourite sayings about self-love is this, “If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, why say it to yourself?”

We are our biggest judges. We are disappointed with ourselves before, during and after we initiate a project. We think we aren’t worthy of someone’s love, we aren’t pretty enough, we don’t work hard enough, we don’t deserve a better life.

And yet, realistically speaking, you are probably doing better than you want to admit. You just never give yourself credit for the stuff you’ve done, achieved, the ideas you have and the lives you’ve changed.

But the negative self-talk is keeping you down. You overthink everything (here’s how to stop overthinking) and lean towards the negative in every situation.

I have a theory that any negative self-talk and emotion can be conquered by one of these three practices: gratitude, forgiveness and giving love. And the best part is that none of these require a big effort or a perfect mindset to begin with.

You don’t have to suddenly become the most positive version of yourself overnight. You just have to start noticing your thoughts, catching the negative ones a little earlier, and gently shifting them in a better direction.

Some days, that might look like writing down three things you’re grateful for. Other days, it might mean forgiving yourself for not doing enough, or simply allowing yourself to rest without guilt.

Let’s recap so far:

Step 1: Mind Reset

• Do a Brain Dump
• Start Journaling (even if occasionally and short sessions)
• Reflect on Yourself and deal with negative emotions healthily

Step 2: Fix Your Energy

Now that you have paid attention to your mind, it is time to work on powering yourself. It will help you stay motivated and focused.

How do you do that?

Fix Your Sleep

If you always wake up tired, regardless of how long you’ve slept, it is time to brush up your sleeping skills, and work on your sleep hygiene. I have a full guide with 17 possible reasons that can keep you drowsy and tired after a full night sleep, but let me brush up on the most obvious stuff:

• check how sleep cycles work and choose to go to bed at an hour that would allow you to wake up at the end of a sleep cycle.
• no doom scrolling for at least an hour before bed. Journal, brain dump, chat to your partner, read a book, meditate, play physical board game or do anything else, but stay away from the blue light.
• no chocolate or sugary foods for two hours before bed
• help your circadian rhythm by keeping your bedroom dark and cool, your body loves to sleep in those conditions.

Do Better in the Morning

I love waking up early and I was a member of the 5 a.m. club for 10 years. Waking up early isn’t for everyone and if that’s not your thing, I get it. But spending the morning intentionally, giving yourself time and space to start the day on your terms is actually life-changing.

There are many things you can do in the morning depending on your waking time and energy level. You can do anything from these 50 morning habits or you can follow my simple 3-step routine that will give you the same results.

Whatever you choose, make sure you spend the morning charging your body, spirit and mind with positivity, health and good energy. See it as setting the base for the day.

Choose the Small Habits

I am certainly not a fan of big life changes, regardless of how hyped up I am for them. My intentions of making overnight improvements to my life have failed basically 95% of the time.

What has worked and will always work are two things: choosing a small habit and coming back to it as many times as I need to if I let it slip.

Micro habits are an absolute gold mine in the world of personal development because you can start a few at once and still cause no interruption to your day.

Some of the micro habits I’ve adopted throughout the years are shining my sink every night, washing either the toilet, the sink or the shower (not the whole bathroom) once a day, gratitude journaling, going in the garden for five minutes every morning, and many more that have become part of my daily life without me even noticing.

What would your few small habits be?

Recap Step 2: Fix Your Energy

• Fix Your Sleep
• Do Better in the Morning
• Choose the Small Habits

Step 3: Clean Your Environment

Have you heard of the “busy being busy” type of behaviour? It’s when we are always doing something but never get ahead on anything. I’ve been stuck on that train for many years and would’ve still been there if it weren’t for a tiny realisation that inspired the next life-reset point.

Start Decluttering

I have too much stuff.

Everywhere.

In my mind. In my home. On my devices.

Both my husband and I tend to hold onto things – he loves tools, and I love paper (journals, books, paper ephemera). So naturally, we have too much stuff.

And all those things are like open tabs waiting for attention. It’s exhausting. So, 2026 is my declutter year.

I am going through every corner of my home and donating, selling or throwing away anything I haven’t used in over a year. The hoover I don’t like because it’s not powerful enough? Sold. Clothes we don’t wear? Donated. Things we never use? Gone.

I recommend starting small – just a drawer or two each week. It creates space and you feel it immediately.

So, start decluttering. Something. Anything.

Do a Digital Detox

The digital clutter is much less visible and harder to deal with. You start deleting old photos or screenshots, but end up revisiting memories instead.

Despite that, digital declutter and detox (which are two different things, by the way) are so important. It isn’t about freeing space on your phone. It’s about reducing the constant flow of unnecessary information around you.

That recipe you screenshot six months ago? Either make it or delete it.

Your child’s photos? Move them to a drive and organise them into folders.

Your email? That’s a whole different level – but it can be managed with the right Zero-Inbox system.

I know it sounds like you need to do more, but see it all as untying a knot. You won’t see a big difference right away, but each small step makes it easier. One step at a time.

If you need more info on digital detox and declutter, I have a 2-week challenge that will guide you through the process and make it so much easier.

Get Organised

Decluttering is part of organising your life… but it’s only one part.

Now that you’ve started freeing space in your mind and environment, it’s time to focus on organisation… which is simpler than you think.

All you need is a notebook and a pen. That’s it. A simple notebook works just as well as any fancy planner—it’s what you do with it that matters.

So, what do you do?

Once a month, create 7 lists: a budget list, a meal planning list, a master to-do list, an events and appointments list, an exercise list, a family time list, and a me-time list.

Each list is straightforward, and together they give you a clear structure for your month. If you wish to dive deeper into each list, you can see my 7-lists monthly organising system right here.

Once I’m done with these 7 lists, I do a very minimal daily planning (I don’t have time for pretty stickers and drawings, so I keep it simple). I just scribble down what I want or need to do that day and cross it off if I manage to complete the task, or transfer it to the next day if I don’t.

Recap Step 3: Clean Your Environment

• Start decluttering
• Do a digital detox
• Get organised

Step 4: The 1% Better Theory

Have you heard of the 1% better theory by James Clear? Many years ago, I read his book Atomic Habits and I swear it’s probably one of the very few books I finished in one sitting (well, I listened to the audiobook, but same thing). My top 5 takeaways from it are right here, but the most important and groundbreaking idea from it is this:

You don’t have to do big changes to see big changes.

If your morning routine has always been wake up -> drink coffee -> dress and go, you cannot make yourself stick to a 10-step morning routine regardless of how good it would do for you.

You need to start small. You just need to be 1% better today. Tomorrow you can be 1% better than today and the day after … you get the point. The simplest way I can explain it is this: do your best today and make sure it is slightly better than your best yesterday.

Choose Tiny Habits

This is where micro habits come into place.

If we take running as an example, your first step might simply be putting on your running gear and stretching.

The next day, you stretch and take a short walk. Then a longer walk. Then maybe a short jog.

That’s how it builds.

Stay Consistent

There is nothing, and I mean NOTHING wrong with dropping a new habit, regardless of how tiny and good it was. That doesn’t mean you cannot pick it back up again in a few days or weeks.

I used to shame myself for starting a “change my life” routine and then dropping it. No more.

I am human, and I give myself the opportunity to see the difference between having that routine and not having it.

Sometimes I quickly realise it was better with it so I start it all over again. Other times, I like myself better without complicating my days, so let go of that routine.

The only thing to stay consistent with is improving your life. Keep trying, adjusting, and exploring what works for you.

Recap Step 4: The 1% Better Theory

• Choose tiny habits
• Stay consistent

Step 5: Create Structure

You have decluttered your brain, your home, your online world. You have organised your life and explored the ideas of trying tiny habits.

Now you want to have ti turn all that into a stable structure – one that you will be able to almost visualise in your mind.

You will want to find the best ways to fit all those things into your day-to-day life. Here are two ways you can do it (combine them if you’d like).

Learn About Time Blocking

I am a huge fan of time blocking because it literally creates security, structure, and a blueprint for me to follow. It removes decision fatigue and gives me the freedom to work and take a break within the same block.

I go into detail about how to time block right here, but here’s the overview for you:

You divide your day into blocks and assign each one to a specific area of your life. During that time, you focus only on that category.

If you finish early, you rest. Then move on to the next block.

Simplify Your Daily Routines

Do you feel like you’re trying to do everything every day?

Simplify everything.

Create theme days for your housework, for example. Mondays could be for meal prep, Tuesdays – for cleaning all bathrooms, Wednesdays – for cleaning the floors and so on. Make sure it fits your lifestyle.

Create a similar flow at your workplace. Maybe you could have a time of the day when you only check emails and then ignore them for the rest of the day. Maybe you can reach out to colleagues for their input on projects…

Simplifying your days doesn’t necessarily mean removing tasks and doing less. It means working better, being more organised, avoiding decision fatigue, batching tasks, and thinking ahead.

Recap Step 5: Create Structure

• Time block your days
• Simplify your routines

Step 6: Remove What Holds You Back

There are two setbacks I just know you struggle with: bad habits and distractions

Remove Bad Habits

We all have them in one way or another. Eating too much sweets, not cleansing your face every night, doom scrolling before going to sleep, negative self-talk… The bad habits I talk about don’t have a specific shape, they are always personal.

It is your responsibility to eliminate them one after another. How? By being disciplined about it and reminding yourself what the cost of bad decisions is – your happiness.

Avoid Distractions

They slow down your progress, frustrate you, and tire your brain.

Distractions come in many forms It could be a device or just social media, but it could also be other people who do not respect your work time and lack a strong work ethic.

Setting boundaries with others and yourself is crucial for your mental wellbeing. But where do you start? I have a very specific few tips on how to avoid distractions right here, yet the most effective way is to identify those distractions and create a system of dealing with them.

Set limits on your apps.

Set boundaries with people.

That’s how you protect your time and focus.

Recap Step 6: Remove what holds you back

• Remove bad habits
• Avoid distractions

Step 7: Start Moving

Now that you’ve cleaned up your life, organised your days and set healthy boundaries, you want to start doing things. Preparation is over – it’s time to take action.

Take Small Actions

I have come up with 70 simple ways to get your life together, one step at a time. But you could also take the shortcut and try getting your life under control in just a week.

Whatever you decide to do, just make sure your you are actually moving the needle. Every step counts, even the smallest.

Challenge Yourself For Fun

If taking action is something you struggle with, do it like me – challenge yourself.

Challenges are my best-kept secret for not just trying new things but also finding the discipline to stick to a plan for more than a few hours. I am obsessed with challenges and always feel full of motivation when I do one.

The best challenges I would choose when trying to reset my life are the 7-day productivity challenge or the laziness challenge as they would both boost my confidence and inspire me to keep going even once I’m done with them.

Have Fun

It is so easy to get caught in the race for productivity, success and self-improvement. Of course, that’s important, but you know what else is important and must always be present in your life?

Fun.

Fun new moments, experiences and people will inspire you, motivate you and give you the energy you’re craving.

But most of us just sit and wait for the “fun” to knock on our door. Instead, create it yourself – even on your own. You can try at least 30 solo date activities, and you can pick any of these 50 fun things to do to add more excitement to your days.

Find ways to laugh more and see how the world smiles back at you.

Recap Step 7: Start Moving

• Take small actions
• Challenge yourself for fun
• Have fun

Final Thoughts

If you made it this far, your attention span is doing just fine, lol.

But seriously, this blueprint turned out longer than intended, but it’s jam packed with good information, and I hope you saw value in it.

It feels like there are many things to do and change, but in reality, it’s all things you’ve already considered changing. This was just the confirmation that by changing them you will get somewhere better.

Resetting your life isn’t easy, but also, it isn’t rocket science. Maybe you need a little bit more confidence or a tiny push by a friend (or me). Maybe your next step will be the first of many good steps taking you towards your dream life.

Whatever it is, make sure you give yourself some grace, appreciate who you are and allow yourself to flourish into who you want to be.